I am going through a difficult "season" (Dear God, I hope it's a season) parenting my 13-yo son. Everything feels contentious, though none of it needs to be so. This past Saturday morning we actually managed to cook alongside one another, agree on the music, and end up with a mostly clean kitchen - and I really can't say how grateful I w…
I am going through a difficult "season" (Dear God, I hope it's a season) parenting my 13-yo son. Everything feels contentious, though none of it needs to be so. This past Saturday morning we actually managed to cook alongside one another, agree on the music, and end up with a mostly clean kitchen - and I really can't say how grateful I was for that singular, peaceful hour. With that in mind, my focus for the season is to create as many of those moments as possible for us - even if it's just a few minutes per day.
Mother of three teens here (two of whom are 13-year old twins) - solidarity 👊 - it's really the little things. And reminding ourselves that we are doing our best.
Oh Momma. 13 year old boy is harddddd. In my experience with my boys it was indeed a unique season with its own hard and sad. Once they realized I wasn’t trying to keep them from growing up, things settled down. Saying a prayer for your momma heart and some common ground.
On a side note one of the most validating moments of motherhood was when my Uber strong willed oldest child and son stood in my kitchen at Mother’s Day a few years back and said he doesn’t know how we didn’t kill him when he was a teenager. He said “I was such an asshole.” I burst out laughing and said “I didn’t think I’d live to hear you say that. You were, and we loved you in spite of it.” He’s a good man, and now has a son of his own.❤️
Oh, Amy - I always love hearing from moms who are "on the other side" of whatever parenting phase I'm in. The very possibility that he may see his own behavior through a different lens in the future has made my day. Thank you.
Oh, Sweetheart, you're so in the weeds right now. 13 is a HARD age for both the parent and the kid. They have more hormones than brain cells and so many feelings. As the mom of an adult child who actually likes me again, I promise it gets better. Stay in it. They find their way back.
"More hormones than brain cells" - I feel like I should have this tattooed on my arm, so I can just look down and see it every time he is making me crazy! Thank you for your empathy, it really means a lot to me.
I am going through a difficult "season" (Dear God, I hope it's a season) parenting my 13-yo son. Everything feels contentious, though none of it needs to be so. This past Saturday morning we actually managed to cook alongside one another, agree on the music, and end up with a mostly clean kitchen - and I really can't say how grateful I was for that singular, peaceful hour. With that in mind, my focus for the season is to create as many of those moments as possible for us - even if it's just a few minutes per day.
what a gift
Mother of three teens here (two of whom are 13-year old twins) - solidarity 👊 - it's really the little things. And reminding ourselves that we are doing our best.
Amen, sister. I appreciate the reminder.
Oh Momma. 13 year old boy is harddddd. In my experience with my boys it was indeed a unique season with its own hard and sad. Once they realized I wasn’t trying to keep them from growing up, things settled down. Saying a prayer for your momma heart and some common ground.
On a side note one of the most validating moments of motherhood was when my Uber strong willed oldest child and son stood in my kitchen at Mother’s Day a few years back and said he doesn’t know how we didn’t kill him when he was a teenager. He said “I was such an asshole.” I burst out laughing and said “I didn’t think I’d live to hear you say that. You were, and we loved you in spite of it.” He’s a good man, and now has a son of his own.❤️
Oh, Amy - I always love hearing from moms who are "on the other side" of whatever parenting phase I'm in. The very possibility that he may see his own behavior through a different lens in the future has made my day. Thank you.
The other side of 13 can be especially beautiful, no matter how long it takes to get there!
Oh, Sweetheart, you're so in the weeds right now. 13 is a HARD age for both the parent and the kid. They have more hormones than brain cells and so many feelings. As the mom of an adult child who actually likes me again, I promise it gets better. Stay in it. They find their way back.
"More hormones than brain cells" - I feel like I should have this tattooed on my arm, so I can just look down and see it every time he is making me crazy! Thank you for your empathy, it really means a lot to me.